When birkenstocks became cool again I was indignant. “Nah fuck those weird German shoes. They were ugly in highschool and they’re ugly now.” I’m...
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Why feeling unsure of yourself might be your best asset
A few weeks ago I went to see a network chiropractor that a friend had recommended. I got a weird vibe from him straight away. He seemed arrogant,...
What to do when you can’t bloody figure out what to do…
Yesterday I ran a corporate workshop for the team at Smiling Mind and found myself telling them about a cripplingly insecure, confusing time in my...
How to handle criticism and sexism without kicking anyone
Today, I quit my soccer team of 8 years. Sexism and constant criticism shunted me over the edge. Neville metaphorically flipped the bird at one of...
How to be less of a dick to yourself (and others, probably)
On Sunday, Bloody Good Bloke brought up something about my behaviour earlier that day (see below for details!) that made me furious at him. The kind...
How to handle the relentless self-criticism that your mind keeps stabbing you with
After editing my blog post about my shadow side (AKA that time I accidentally snapped at my new boyfriend and his mate), my incredible assistant...
What to do when you accidentally snap at your new boyfriend and his mate
Last week, I accidentally snapped at New Secret Man (and one of his friends on the phone) for the first time. And then I panicked. New Secret Man...
How not to be an insecure mess in front of folks who scare you (E.g. the hot guy whose “out of my league”)
Recently I went on a date with a guy who I described to my mates as “out of my league”. We had an amazing connection, and I was scared. We had so...
Scared to do what you know you need to do? (AKA Why I kicked my flatmate out)
A few weeks ago I decided to get a flatmate to help me through the Covid rollercoaster. I was excited right up until the moment that he turned out...
Shit, I got ghosted already!
I just got ghosted for the first time (in 6 years) and I’m pissed! Jk, I'm not pissed, I'm hurt and disappointed. But Neville doesn't like those...
What to do when you can’t help but want to be a big fish in a small pond
When I was a wee bairn, (unfortunately not a Scottish one, but almost ginger enough to be mistaken for one), my parents told me I was very special....
What to do with that sneaking suspicion that no one loves you and everyone is using you, probably
A few weeks ago a new friend triggered the bejaysus out of me, fist-to-the-gut style in a bar in Richmond. Over beers, he asked me if I could read...
When self doubt is buggering up the things you want to do in your life
I was on the tube back to Thames Ditton after wrapping up the last of my workshops in the UK, and I was buzzing with energy. I’d absolutely loved...
The hazards of people pleasing (That time I didn’t mean to let an angry millennial give me a perm)
A few weeks ago I had my hair done by a scary, probably judgemental millennial. I was scared of her within 3 minutes. Her 10-years-younger-than-mine...
How to improve your confidence
Yesterday I stood at the front of a room of 45 advertising execs and their teams, and buggered up the first 15 seconds of my workshop. I started out ok, then 1 sentence in, my tongue got stuck in my mouth, and I paused for a millisecond too long. A mini panic ensued and Neville […]
How to handle when others judge and criticise you behind your back
Two weeks ago I felt as though I was being stabbed in the gut when I discovered that some people I thought I knew pretty well have been judging the bejaysus out of me and discussing me behind my back without ever talking to me about any of it. Doing the job I do, I’m […]
What to do when you’re pretty convinced you’re an unlovable, rubbish person
This morning I sat in my favourite cafe with tears streaming down my cheeks. I was crying over some people I don’t really even know. They’d jabbed me right where my insecurities live. Deep down, like (probably) all of us, I have some destructive, unkind, horrible beliefs about myself. They lurk so deep I don’t […]
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How to handle judgement and comparison [VIDEO]
Last Friday I deleted Instagram off my phone, again. For the 5th time. Probably. I was busy judging the bejaysus out of some people’s stories, and...
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