On the 7th of May last year, I gazed across a crowded Zoom screen and met this wonderful man named Bloody Good Bloke. I was so drawn to him (mainly...
The day I met Bloody Good Bloke across a crowded Zoom screen
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Why we avoid sex and what to do about it
For the past few weeks, Bloody Good Bloke and I have been chiselling out time for sex or intimacy before 8am every morning before we get stuck into...
How to stop self-sabotaging your happiness (and pleasure)
Two weeks ago, Bloody Good Bloke arrived home from his trail run to an important announcement. "Excuse me. I’ve decided we have to have sex every...
What to do about a friendship that is draining you
During last year’s 4 month lockdown I realised there were a couple of friends in my life who I felt really drained by after we caught up. I would...
The video from Bloody Good Bloke that made me cry
A few weeks ago Bloody Good Bloke sent me a video he’d made that made me burst into tears. The video was of his Nona and Dida — his Croatian...
How to have a difficult conversation with your mate
On Sunday I had an accidentally awkward conversation with a friend that ended really weirdly as she dropped me home. I love this friend, but over...
How to be less of a dick to yourself (and others, probably)
On Sunday, Bloody Good Bloke brought up something about my behaviour earlier that day (see below for details!) that made me furious at him. The kind...
What to do if you struggle to ask for favours
In highschool there was a beautiful girl who I didn’t know well who always seemed to be the star of the show. I felt she was cocky, and I resented...
What to do if you feel guilty when people do nice things for you
Two nights ago Bloody Good Bloke fell asleep early while I was still unpacking our stuff in our new place near Byron Bay. I worked for a few hours...
How long should you take to get over your ex?
This morning Bloody Good Bloke texted me to find out how my catch up with Bloody Good Chap had gone. “I only cried all the way home this time, not...
How to stop yourself from spiralling into a 2 day pass-ag tantrum at your partner
Yesterday Bloody Good Bloke jumped into the driver's seat of my car with very wet, salty togs on. I (mildly) snapped at him. He (mildly) snapped...
What to do when you turn into a cold ice queen and accidentally bugger up relationships
At times, Neville has been pretty irate (in my head) towards the people whose relationships with me have deteriorated since I started this blog 7...
How to know whether to leave when you’re scared shitless there’s nothing better out there
My relationship with Bloody Good Chap was one of the most transformative and healing experiences of my life. For both him and I, our relationship...
A romantic camping trip… to my balcony (complete with a campfire in a birdbath)
My new man and I (????) had a week booked to go away camping and Airbnb-ing in regional Victoria the day after Melbourne lockdown round 2 was...
Why is he pulling away?
I have a friend, Roger*, who I have a fascinating intellectual connection with. It seems impossible for our catch ups to last any less than 3 hours....
What to do when you’re being all self-destructive about a breakup… or anything!
Since ending my relationship with Bloody Good Chap and re-entering the dating scene wayyyy too prematurely, I’ve been assailed with not-fun...
Shit, I got ghosted already!
I just got ghosted for the first time (in 6 years) and I’m pissed! Jk, I'm not pissed, I'm hurt and disappointed. But Neville doesn't like those...
Accidental dancing whiplash and a first date
Well wouldn’t you know it, I woke up with whiplash from dancing too enthusiastically at No Lights No Lycra. I dusted off my raving skills from circa...
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