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When your mate just won’t stop talking at you

When your mate just won’t stop talking at you

Last weekend while I was hanging out with a mate, he announced his thoughts incessantly, there were very few minutes of silence, zero questions, and seemingly no consideration from my friend as to whether his words were meaningful or relevant to either of us. I felt as though my head was being stuffed fuller and…

What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

Today I am feeling overwhelmed. With a capital D and an H and a W and capital all-the-other-letters. Oh god, there are so many letters! Gahhhhhh. Coming back from being away always seems to land me in some kind of shemozzle for at least 1-3 shemozzley weeks, even when my trips away are a working…

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Yesterday I hung out with a friend who loves to talk. We hung out, she talked, I listened. Slowly my listening turned to sort-of-listening. Then sometimes-listening. Then not-listening-at-all-and-instead-thinking-about-how-tiring-listening is. Then trying-to-practice-mindful-listening while repeatedly getting distracted by Neville, who was busy alternating between self-righteous judgements: “this friend is selfish and lacks self awareness” and self-deprecating concerns…

How to let go of resentment

How to let go of resentment

Yesterday I bluntly asked my close friend when he paused for breath “Hey, how come you rarely ask me any questions? Are you aware that over the last couple of days I’ve done a lot of listening and you’re doing a lot of talking with almost no gaps of silence?” We had been driving for…

What to do about worrying too much at 4.06am

What to do about worrying too much at 4.06am

Last night I woke up at 4.06am with an announcement from Neville: “There is a lot to worry about, Andrea.” I agreed, and we worried for a while about some miscellaneous worries. I checked my phone. 4.16am.. Shit. Nev: “What are we going to do about Instagram, Andrea?” Me: “I love not having Instagram on…

How I got out of my no-sex-drive rut last week

How I got out of my no-sex-drive rut last week

Image via Pinterest A week ago I completely lost my libido and great sex slid back down to the bottom of my priorities. It wasn’t long before I started to feel a bit disconnected from BGC again, our intimacy faded, and life started to lose its shine. Since I know this happens pretty frequently when…

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Image via Pinterest Guest post by Kim Anami Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”? Fuck, yes! Is an unequivocal yes. If it’s hesitation, if it’s stalling, if it’s deflecting. It’s a no. If your pussy is wet, gushing down your thighs, and your arms involuntarily reach out, pulling grabbing and someone inside of…

How to make better friendships, even when you suck at them a bit

How to make better friendships, even when you suck at them a bit

On a Sunday I found myself lying in the dark crying completely unexpected tears as I relayed my thought process to a friend. I was away with a group of friends and we’d been having a bloody awesome time, the tears seemed to come from nowhere. As I washed my face to get ready for…

How to be less socially awkward and stop being side-slapped by unexpected emotions

How to be less socially awkward and stop being side-slapped by unexpected emotions

Recently in an EMDR session with a psychologist, she asked me to write down the 10 worst experiences in my life. Rainbows and butterflies ensued. Of all the 10 things I wrote down, the only one that brought a huge lump to my throat and needles to my eyes was the one that I least…

A deceptively simple trick for when your mind grabs the self loathing stick

A deceptively simple trick for when your mind grabs the self loathing stick

Last night as I got half way down the street from dropping a friend at her house, I noticed that there was a war of hatred going on in my head. During the short drive to her house I’d somehow got onto the subject of how it had recently really hit home that probably hundreds…

Gidday, I'm Andrea

I'm a mindfulness advisor and former cynical pessimist.

I used to be an awkward, pessimistic, mediocrely happy overachiever.

Life looked good on the outside, but on the inside things were average.

I was indecisive, I didn't know what to do with my life, I self-sabotaged the hell out of my relationships.

I had a feeling I was going to keep f-ing things up for myself unless something radical changed.

The life handbrake-turn that followed over the next few years came as the result of learning what I now teach in Bloody Good Life 101. Just practical, relatable techniques without any rainbow and butterfly jibber jabber.

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