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A quick-start guide to avoiding self-doubt and procrastination

A quick-start guide to avoiding self-doubt and procrastination

During the first year of Project Self’s half-arsed existence you could find me vacuuming a lot, Facebooking like a trooper, eating snacks at every available second, and spending hours in the kitchen making horrendously disappointing vegan cauliflower pizzas. I couldn’t tell you how, but I seemed to be “busy” every day working on Project Self,…

What to do with nonspecific-mild-unfounded-background-dread

What to do with nonspecific-mild-unfounded-background-dread

This morning when Bloody Good Chap reached out to put his half asleep arm around me, I half-asleeply mumbled to him: “BGC, I’ve woken up feeling full of dread.” He didn’t respond for 30 seconds. Eventually he opened one eye to ask “What kind of dread?” I wasn’t sure exactly. All I knew is that…

That time a hater ripped into me, full troll style

That time a hater ripped into me, full troll style

A couple of weeks ago I encountered my first real hater – A DJ from NZ who read a few of my posts and then ripped into me, full troll style. It was like a punch to the stomach, and then another few on top of that. I knew he was just angry at life…

When your mate just won’t stop talking at you

When your mate just won’t stop talking at you

Last weekend while I was hanging out with a mate, he announced his thoughts incessantly, there were very few minutes of silence, zero questions, and seemingly no consideration from my friend as to whether his words were meaningful or relevant to either of us. I felt as though my head was being stuffed fuller and…

What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

Today I am feeling overwhelmed. With a capital D and an H and a W and capital all-the-other-letters. Oh god, there are so many letters! Gahhhhhh. Coming back from being away always seems to land me in some kind of shemozzle for at least 1-3 shemozzley weeks, even when my trips away are a working…

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Yesterday I hung out with a friend who loves to talk. We hung out, she talked, I listened. Slowly my listening turned to sort-of-listening. Then sometimes-listening. Then not-listening-at-all-and-instead-thinking-about-how-tiring-listening is. Then trying-to-practice-mindful-listening while repeatedly getting distracted by Neville, who was busy alternating between self-righteous judgements: “this friend is selfish and lacks self awareness” and self-deprecating concerns…

How to let go of resentment

How to let go of resentment

Yesterday I bluntly asked my close friend when he paused for breath “Hey, how come you rarely ask me any questions? Are you aware that over the last couple of days I’ve done a lot of listening and you’re doing a lot of talking with almost no gaps of silence?” We had been driving for…

What to do about worrying too much at 4.06am

What to do about worrying too much at 4.06am

Last night I woke up at 4.06am with an announcement from Neville: “There is a lot to worry about, Andrea.” I agreed, and we worried for a while about some miscellaneous worries. I checked my phone. 4.16am.. Shit. Nev: “What are we going to do about Instagram, Andrea?” Me: “I love not having Instagram on…

How I got out of my no-sex-drive rut last week

How I got out of my no-sex-drive rut last week

Image via Pinterest A week ago I completely lost my libido and great sex slid back down to the bottom of my priorities. It wasn’t long before I started to feel a bit disconnected from BGC again, our intimacy faded, and life started to lose its shine. Since I know this happens pretty frequently when…

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Image via Pinterest Guest post by Kim Anami Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”? Fuck, yes! Is an unequivocal yes. If it’s hesitation, if it’s stalling, if it’s deflecting. It’s a no. If your pussy is wet, gushing down your thighs, and your arms involuntarily reach out, pulling grabbing and someone inside of…

How to make better friendships, even when you suck at them a bit

How to make better friendships, even when you suck at them a bit

On a Sunday I found myself lying in the dark crying completely unexpected tears as I relayed my thought process to a friend. I was away with a group of friends and we’d been having a bloody awesome time, the tears seemed to come from nowhere. As I washed my face to get ready for…

How to be less socially awkward and stop being side-slapped by unexpected emotions

How to be less socially awkward and stop being side-slapped by unexpected emotions

Recently in an EMDR session with a psychologist, she asked me to write down the 10 worst experiences in my life. Rainbows and butterflies ensued. Of all the 10 things I wrote down, the only one that brought a huge lump to my throat and needles to my eyes was the one that I least…

A deceptively simple trick for when your mind grabs the self loathing stick

A deceptively simple trick for when your mind grabs the self loathing stick

Last night as I got half way down the street from dropping a friend at her house, I noticed that there was a war of hatred going on in my head. During the short drive to her house I’d somehow got onto the subject of how it had recently really hit home that probably hundreds…

Happy New Year Legends!!

Happy New Year Legends!!

Well, that escalated quickly! I was just getting the hang of 2017 and bang, it’s 2018. Happy New Year legends!! I’m very grateful for you, all your awesome messages and support over the years I’ve been writing the Project Self blog, it’s shown me just how many thousands of (probably) millions of billions of awesome…

When someone is judging you and you want to kick them a little bit

When someone is judging you and you want to kick them a little bit

Last week at my good friend’s wedding, I introduced myself to a friend of a friend and she turned to me and said “Oh, well obviously I know who YOU are, Miss Social Media Queen”. I was quite taken aback by her judgement-laced words, and I laughed a bit too heartily while trying to work…

G'day, I'm Andrea

I'm a mindfulness facilitator and former cynical pessimist.

I used to be an awkward, pessimistic, overachiever.

Life looked good on the outside, but on the inside things were average.

I was indecisive, I didn't know what to do with my life, I self-sabotaged the hell out of my relationships.

I had a feeling I was going to keep f-ing things up for myself unless something radical changed.

The life handbrake-turn that followed over the next few years came as the result of learning what I now teach in my unconventional mind-taming program for indecisive overachievers - Bloody Good Life. Just practical, relatable techniques without any rainbow and butterfly jibber jabber.

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