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How to become a Well F*%ked Woman

How to become a Well F*%ked Woman

Sex used to feel mighty average for me, it didn’t seem to matter how skilled or loving or enthusiastic my partners were, it all just felt like a bit of an act to me, one that I was determined to be good at. But I could never come, and I wasn’t about to start pretending,… read more…

How to come alive again

How to come alive again

This morning I woke up excited to try a slice of homemade bread from my new gluten-free bread maker, then as I chowed down on my more-cake-than-bread piece of bread, I re-read one of my emails: “I love mindfulness and your emails but please don’t email me about Kim Anami’s stuff, I find it really… read more…

When your mate just won’t stop talking at you

When your mate just won’t stop talking at you

Last weekend while I was hanging out with a mate, he announced his thoughts incessantly, there were very few minutes of silence, zero questions, and seemingly no consideration from my friend as to whether his words were meaningful or relevant to either of us. I felt as though my head was being stuffed fuller and… read more…

What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

Today I am feeling overwhelmed. With a capital D and an H and a W and capital all-the-other-letters. Oh god, there are so many letters! Gahhhhhh. Coming back from being away always seems to land me in some kind of shemozzle for at least 1-3 shemozzley weeks, even when my trips away are a working… read more…

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Yesterday I hung out with a friend who loves to talk. We hung out, she talked, I listened. Slowly my listening turned to sort-of-listening. Then sometimes-listening. Then not-listening-at-all-and-instead-thinking-about-how-tiring-listening is. Then trying-to-practice-mindful-listening while repeatedly getting distracted by Neville, who was busy alternating between self-righteous judgements: “this friend is selfish and lacks self awareness” and self-deprecating concerns… read more…

How to let go of resentment

How to let go of resentment

Yesterday I bluntly asked my close friend when he paused for breath “Hey, how come you rarely ask me any questions? Are you aware that over the last couple of days I’ve done a lot of listening and you’re doing a lot of talking with almost no gaps of silence?” We had been driving for… read more…

G'day, I'm Andrea

I'm a mindfulness facilitator and former cynical pessimist.

I used to be an awkward, pessimistic, overachiever.

Life looked good on the outside, but on the inside things were average.

I was indecisive, I didn't know what to do with my life, I self-sabotaged the hell out of my relationships.

I had a feeling I was going to keep f-ing things up for myself unless something radical changed.

The life handbrake-turn that followed over the next few years came as the result of learning what I now teach in my unconventional mind-taming program for indecisive overachievers - Bloody Good Life. Just practical, relatable techniques without any rainbow and butterfly jibber jabber.