2 days ago Bloody Good Chap and I were finally honest with each other about a few things we’ve been keeping to ourselves.
We’ve been feeling disconnected from each other – still spending lots of time together, making time for date nights, but not feeling connected and open and playful like we usually do.
Our intimacy and sex life had taken a hit as a result,
we were withdrawing from each other emotionally,
which makes good sex and intimacy almost impossible.
When this happens in our relationship, which it does from time to time after 4 years together (woohoo, a PB for both of us!), we fall back on a technique we learnt in one of Kim Anami’s epic sex & relationship programs (affiliate link).
In between every relationship, it’s like we have a pane of glass between us.
When the glass is clear, we can fully see and understand and connect with each other, and intimacy and sex feels light and fun and effortless.
But when something goes wrong between us, even a tiny little thing that bothered one of us, it puts a fleck of dirt on the glass.
Then another little thing irks one of us… another fleck of dirt on the glass.
Over time, without addressing these issues, the dirt builds up and up, to the point that
we’re hanging out, but not really seeing each other – disconnected, withdrawn.
A bit numb, both emotionally and sexually.
So we have a regular practice in our relationship: “glass clearing”.
Eventually one of us will ask –
“do we need to do some glass clearing?”
2 days ago BGC and I both opened up about some small and some big things we’ve been mulling over in our heads without being honest with each other.
It was a hard conversation, there were tears, and there was pain and raw honesty.
But with every bit of honesty and every tear, the glass started to become transparent again. For the first time in a couple of months, I could properly see him again, and I felt like he could see me.
When the storm settled, we were more connected than we’ve ever been, more drawn to each other, and our intimacy kicked back into gear with ease.
This morning I couldn’t wait for him to wake up after my early morning Bloody Good Life group call so I could jump up into his arms and kiss him.
I can’t thank Kim Anami enough for the incredible techniques BGC and I have learnt from her sex & relationship courses.
It’s not about learning special sexual techniques (though Kim will teach you plenty of those too) –
it’s about understanding yourself, understanding your partner, communicating, breaking down barriers, clearing the glass, and meeting each other in the middle.
That’s what creates explosive sex and super connected intimacy, even in a long term relationship where things have become a bit rote.
If you’re keen to open up and energise yourself, your libido and your relationships (whether you’re single or with a partnership), I can’t recommend Kim’s programs course more highly.
Each program has a free videos series that you can sign up for using the links below (affiliate links):
