The best thing I’ve ever done for my relationship

The best thing I’ve ever done for my relationship

Intimacy used to feel supremely average for me. I’d act my heart out, playing the part to make my partners feel good, but I didn’t love it like I thought I should. I figured something must be wrong with me. Relaxing into pleasure was not really in my repertoire. I had...
An unexpectedly emotional night with Bloody Good Bloke

An unexpectedly emotional night with Bloody Good Bloke

Last night BGB and I rugged up and headed out for our nightly-ish after work walk along the Yarra River. We passed a group of people with a full sized keyboard and four speakers set up on the grass next to a picnic table. Maybe 15 people were standing around in puffer...
The aftermath of my triggered mind (and how not to do what I did)

The aftermath of my triggered mind (and how not to do what I did)

Yesterday I received an email that triggered me straight into grr mode. Every time this woman communicates with me, she speaks in an incredibly condescending, micro-managey way that really gets my goat. I sometimes show Bloody Good Bloke her emails to see if I’m...
What I learnt from ending the most beautiful relationship

What I learnt from ending the most beautiful relationship

Sheesh, Monday was our 3 year anniversary! Bloody Good Bloke and I regularly turn to each other and say “Fuck, we’re so lucky…” I don’t write about our relationship too often on the blog these days. I feel it’s not a particularly relatable...
So I did a dumb thing…

So I did a dumb thing…

This morning I did a very dumb thing and put myself in a lot of danger. I was on my way to my friend’s house to co-work, when I discovered that I’d left the keys in Larry’s ignition overnight, and his clock had turned off. Not a good sign. I gave the keys an...
Why feeling unsure of yourself might be your best asset

Why feeling unsure of yourself might be your best asset

A few weeks ago I went to see a network chiropractor that a friend had recommended. I got a weird vibe from him straight away. He seemed arrogant, perhaps a bit too sure of himself and his method. He was also extremely “woo”. In the past I’ve been very sceptical of...
The Black Sheep’s Guide to getting unstuck

The Black Sheep’s Guide to getting unstuck

A few months ago one of my coaching clients, Stella, became unsure about what to do next.  She wanted to change her job, and move to a new city. She also wanted to meet a partner, and had started to wonder whether she might want kids after all, or not. Stella had been...
What to do when you get jealous AF of a friend

What to do when you get jealous AF of a friend

This morning I found myself swirling with an unidentifably unpleasant emotion as I spent far too many minutes scrolling through the Instagram feed of an unfeasibly beautiful woman I met 8 years ago. Kat and I met back in 2015 while spending four days baring our souls...
My one wish has come true

My one wish has come true

A few weeks ago I was walking down a packed Melbourne shopping street dodging the many sharp-cornered bags coming at me, when my face unexpectedly erupted into a full face-cry. Taken aback, I initially suspected it might be joy-grief at feeling normal for the first...
Checking in

Checking in

Yeah g’day. Yester-yesterday I did eight squats before crying a bit then lying down on my yoga mat to hyperventilate. Bloody Good Bloke laughed at me while effortlessly completing four sets of ten squats, sit ups, side sit ups, chin ups, and lifty-above-the-head...