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How I got out of my no-sex-drive rut last week

How I got out of my no-sex-drive rut last week

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A week ago I completely lost my libido and great sex slid back down to the bottom of my priorities. It wasn’t long before I started to feel a bit disconnected from BGC again, our intimacy faded, and life started to lose its shine.

Since I know this happens pretty frequently when I’m in a long term relationship and busy with so many other things all the time (is anyone ever not busy these days?!), I’m so bloody grateful to have a set of tools to turn to to get things back on track when

I’m feeling like a useless trout that can’t be bothered with sex.

Out comes my jade egg while i’m having a shower (multi tasking innit), my Kim Anami videos make a comeback on my computer screen, I practice a bit of vaginal kung fu, and sometimes even within just few minutes, my libido is on it’s way back and I start to feel more vibrant and alive.

I’ve always endeavoured to be a cool chick that loves sex (not one of those women who only “give” sex to their partner on special occasions),

yet secretly (for most of my life, anyway), I never really enjoyed it that much. I never faked it,

but I definitely didn’t feel like it was blowing my mind in any way shape or form.

It all felt a bit average to be honest, no matter what my boyfriends tried. I’d watch movies with sex bits in them and wonder whether it was just me that found sex a bit numb?

Until I came across Kim Anami I thought I was broken,

and I didn’t realise that anything to do with my sex life could be worked on nor fixed.

I had no idea that there were societal factors that had lead me to shut down a lot of my sexuality, I had no idea that the sexual harassment that all females seem to endure had also made me a lot more numb, and I had no idea that there was anything I could do about it.

Which is why, from the moment 6 years ago I read Kim’s article on MindBodyGreen titled “Sex or Meditation”, to the moment today when I feel just as in love and excited about my relationship with BGC as I did when we first met 3 years ago, I have felt incredibly grateful to Kim Anami for the work she has done to bring modern tantra into the mainstream.

She’s blunt, she’s brash, and she offends a lot of people, but it’s all part of the plan to wake people up and get them to see what’s possible.

Because what’s possible for your sex life, your libido, and your relationship is so much more epic when you have the help of a master in the field to guide you in your journey of self discovery.

To this day, Kim Anami’s programs have been the most life changing self development programs I’ve ever done.

Yes, they’re not cheap. But they are worth so much more than the money –

I honestly think I would have buggered up my epic relationship with BGC long ago if I hadn’t learnt this stuff,

and I’d be continuously stuck in a rut of low libido and dullness without these tools that I’ve used for the last 5 years and will continue to revisit and use for the rest of my life.

Kim Anami’s Vaginal Kung Fu program is open for registration for just a few more days, it closes this Friday at midnight.

I can’t recommend it more highly.

If you’re ready to rev up your libido, enhance your orgasms, and learn a tonne of life changing stuff about your body and your feminine side that you’ll wish you’d known 10 years ago, give it a go. If you hate it and don’t get any benefits, Kim has a 30 day refund policy, so you’re good to go even if you don’t love it as much as I did!

If you’d like to ask me any questions about the program, fire away, I’ll answer honestly –

I only want you to do the program if it’s going to be as life changing for you as it was for me.

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Gidday, I'm Andrea

I'm a mindfulness advisor and former cynical pessimist.

I used to be an awkward, pessimistic, mediocrely happy overachiever.

Life looked good on the outside, but on the inside things were average.

I was indecisive, I didn't know what to do with my life, I self-sabotaged the hell out of my relationships.

I had a feeling I was going to keep f-ing things up for myself unless something radical changed.

The life handbrake-turn that followed over the next few years came as the result of learning what I now teach in Bloody Good Life 101. Just practical, relatable techniques without any rainbow and butterfly jibber jabber.