Category Archives: Sex + Relationships

How to reinvigorate your relationship

How to reinvigorate your relationship

2 days ago Bloody Good Chap and I were finally honest with each other about a few things we’ve been keeping to ourselves.

We’ve been feeling disconnected from each other – still spending lots of time together, making time for date nights, but not feeling connected and open and playful like we usually do.

Our intimacy and sex life had taken a hit as a result,

we were withdrawing from each other emotionally,

which makes good sex and intimacy almost impossible.

When this happens in our relationship, which it does from time to time after 4 years together (woohoo, a PB for both of us!), we fall back on a technique we learnt in one of Kim Anami’s sex & relationship courses (I can’t remember which one, we’ve done them all!)

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In between every relationship, it’s like we have a pane of glass between us.

When the glass is clear, we can fully see and understand and connect with each other, and intimacy and sex feels light and fun and effortless.

But when something goes wrong between us, even a tiny little thing that bothered one of us, it puts a fleck of dirt on the glass.

Then another little thing irks one of us… another fleck of dirt on the glass.

Over time, without addressing these issues, the dirt builds up and up, to the point that

we’re hanging out, but not really seeing each other – disconnected, withdrawn.

A bit numb, both emotionally and sexually.

So we have a regular practice in our relationship: “glass clearing”.

Eventually one of us will ask –

“do we need to do some glass clearing?”

2 days ago BGC and I both opened up about some small and some big things we’ve been mulling over in our heads without being honest with each other.

It was a hard conversation, there were tears, and there was pain and raw honesty.

But with every bit of honesty and every tear, the glass started to become transparent again. For the first time in a couple of months, I could properly see him again, and I felt like he could see me.

When the storm settled, we were more connected than we’ve ever been, more drawn to each other, and our intimacy kicked back into gear with ease.

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This morning I couldn’t wait for him to wake up after my early morning Bloody Good Life group call so I could jump up into his arms and kiss him.

I can’t thank Kim Anami enough for the incredible techniques BGC and I have learnt from her sex & relationship courses.

It’s not about learning special sexual techniques (though Kim will teach you plenty of those too) –

it’s about understanding yourself, understanding your partner, communicating, breaking down barriers, clearing the glass, and meeting each other in the middle.

That’s what creates explosive sex and super connected intimacy, even in a long term relationship where things have become a bit rote.

If you’re keen to open up and energise yourself, your libido and your relationships (whether you’re single or with a partnership), I can’t recommend Kim’s Vaginal Kung Fu course more highly.

Vaginal Kung Fu is open until MIDNIGHT TONIGHT (Friday 1st Feb 2019, PST) only, then it closes for another year. Click here to check it out!

Give it a shot, and if it doesn’t rock your world like it rocked mine, you have 30 days to get a full refund – so you can try it risk free.

(Psstt – if you sign up to Kim’s VKF program, let me know – I’ll give you access to my bonus module: Sex & Relationships – where I’ll share the incredible techniques I’ve learnt for building and sustaining an incredible, connected relationship and sex life).

How to become a Well F*%ked Woman

How to become a Well F*%ked Woman

Sex used to feel mighty average for me, it didn’t seem to matter how skilled or loving or enthusiastic my partners were, it all just felt like a bit of an act to me, one that I was determined to be good at. But I could never come, and I wasn’t about to start pretending,… read more…

How to come alive again

How to come alive again

This morning I woke up excited to try a slice of homemade bread from my new gluten-free bread maker, then as I chowed down on my more-cake-than-bread piece of bread, I re-read one of my emails: “I love mindfulness and your emails but please don’t email me about Kim Anami’s stuff, I find it really… read more…

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Image via Pinterest Guest post by Kim Anami Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”? Fuck, yes! Is an unequivocal yes. If it’s hesitation, if it’s stalling, if it’s deflecting. It’s a no. If your pussy is wet, gushing down your thighs, and your arms involuntarily reach out, pulling grabbing and someone inside of… read more…

She owns it

She owns it

Image via Kim Anami Guest post by Kim Anami She owns it. I can spot it from across the room. So can everyone. When I’m watching the women I work with go through the process of transformation, there are many milestones. As you grow into your true and sexual self, several things happen: 1) You… read more…

Is Chemistry Necessary?

Is Chemistry Necessary?

Image via Pinterest Guest Post by Kim Anami   This is one of the most common things I get asked about: How important is chemistry? Can you get it back if you once had it? What if you never had it? For starters, what is chemistry? Chemistry is the weak-in-the-knees, tingle-in-your-loins, lighting up that takes place… read more…

How to Come Together

How to Come Together

Image via Pinterest Guest Post by Kim Anami Coming together happens on a few levels. When we are emotionally connected and open with each other, the orgasmic “coming together” happens easily. When we are blocked and shut down toward each other, the distance prevents any kind of coming together. In this scenario, a couple is… read more…

G'day, I'm Andrea

I'm a mindfulness facilitator and former cynical pessimist.

I used to be an awkward, pessimistic, overachiever.

Life looked good on the outside, but on the inside things were average.

I was indecisive, I didn't know what to do with my life, I self-sabotaged the hell out of my relationships.

I had a feeling I was going to keep f-ing things up for myself unless something radical changed.

The life handbrake-turn that followed over the next few years came as the result of learning what I now teach in my unconventional mind-taming program for indecisive overachievers - Bloody Good Life. Just practical, relatable techniques without any rainbow and butterfly jibber jabber.