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What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

What to do when overwhelm sneaks into your house

Today I am feeling overwhelmed. With a capital D and an H and a W and capital all-the-other-letters. Oh god, there are so many letters! Gahhhhhh. Coming back from being away always seems to land me in some kind of shemozzle for at least 1-3 shemozzley weeks, even when my trips away are a working… read more…

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Overzealous conversation-fairness alarms & chatty cathys

Yesterday I hung out with a friend who loves to talk. We hung out, she talked, I listened. Slowly my listening turned to sort-of-listening. Then sometimes-listening. Then not-listening-at-all-and-instead-thinking-about-how-tiring-listening is. Then trying-to-practice-mindful-listening while repeatedly getting distracted by Neville, who was busy alternating between self-righteous judgements: “this friend is selfish and lacks self awareness” and self-deprecating concerns… read more…

How to let go of resentment

How to let go of resentment

Yesterday I bluntly asked my close friend when he paused for breath “Hey, how come you rarely ask me any questions? Are you aware that over the last couple of days I’ve done a lot of listening and you’re doing a lot of talking with almost no gaps of silence?” We had been driving for… read more…

What to do about worrying too much at 4.06am

What to do about worrying too much at 4.06am

Last night I woke up at 4.06am with an announcement from Neville: “There is a lot to worry about, Andrea.” I agreed, and we worried for a while about some miscellaneous worries. I checked my phone. 4.16am.. Shit. Nev: “What are we going to do about Instagram, Andrea?” Me: “I love not having Instagram on… read more…

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Image via Pinterest Guest post by Kim Anami Are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”? Fuck, yes! Is an unequivocal yes. If it’s hesitation, if it’s stalling, if it’s deflecting. It’s a no. If your pussy is wet, gushing down your thighs, and your arms involuntarily reach out, pulling grabbing and someone inside of… read more…

Happy New Year Legends!!

Happy New Year Legends!!

Well, that escalated quickly! I was just getting the hang of 2017 and bang, it’s 2018. Happy New Year legends!! I’m very grateful for you, all your awesome messages and support over the years I’ve been writing the Project Self blog, it’s shown me just how many thousands of (probably) millions of billions of awesome… read more…

Gidday, I'm Andrea

I'm a mindfulness advisor and former cynical pessimist.

I used to be an awkward, pessimistic, mediocrely happy overachiever.

Life looked good on the outside, but on the inside things were average.

I was indecisive, I didn't know what to do with my life, I self-sabotaged the hell out of my relationships.

I had a feeling I was going to keep f-ing things up for myself unless something radical changed.

The life handbrake-turn that followed over the next few years came as the result of learning what I now teach in Bloody Good Life 101. Just practical, relatable techniques without any rainbow and butterfly jibber jabber.

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