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The bitchy chick who unexpectedly bought me flowers

The bitchy chick who unexpectedly bought me flowers

Today a chick who’s been a real bitch to me lately completely surprised me by buying me flowers. Lately I’d been worrying a lot that she thinks I’m a dick. When I tell her what I’m up to at work lately (a fair bit of procrastinating), she has a little barely-hidden judgemental look in her…

How to make your day a heap brighter

How to make your day a heap brighter

Yesterday I opened my inbox to find two emails that really surprised me. Though I definitely understood where they were coming from. The first said: “Hi Andrea. LOVE, LOVE your stuff. I’ve been especially just blown away by the wisdom recently.” [+ a bunch of other lovely stuff that I won’t include here to keep…

How to inspire people even when you feel like what you have to say is probably boring

How to inspire people even when you feel like what you have to say is probably boring

Yesterday a handyman called Bob came over to help me fix up a few things around the house that I couldn’t work out how to do. As he worked, Bob started telling me how his real name was Roberto, pronounced with an Italian flair and a rolled “R”, but that he was mocked so much…

Is Chemistry Necessary?

Is Chemistry Necessary?

Image source: Pinterest Guest Post by Kim Anami   This is one of the most common things I get asked about: How important is chemistry? Can you get it back if you once had it? What if you never had it? For starters, what is chemistry? Chemistry is the weak-in-the-knees, tingle-in-your-loins, lighting up that takes…

The most life-changing lesson I’ve learnt this year

The most life-changing lesson I’ve learnt this year

In between all the tears over the past few weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about the point of emotional pain. I decided to do a little stocktake of the stand-out horrible and stand-out bloody good moments of my life so far to see if I could find a pattern in the madness. When I…

How to Come Together

How to Come Together

Guest Post by Kim Anami Coming together happens on a few levels. When we are emotionally connected and open with each other, the orgasmic “coming together” happens easily. When we are blocked and shut down toward each other, the distance prevents any kind of coming together. In this scenario, a couple is living their lives…

What to do with tricky emotions when they just keep coming back

What to do with tricky emotions when they just keep coming back

Yesterday my tears joined in with the splish splashing of the shower. Unlike other times I’ve felt pain, I allowed this pain to come, to wash over me and through me and out my eyes and down the drain. As I stood there engulfed in steam I suddenly had a moment of clarity: Pain has…

Gourmet Sex: The Fastest Path to Growth

Gourmet Sex: The Fastest Path to Growth

Guest Post by Kim Anami Even though we can go a certain distance on our own paths of personal and spiritual growth, at a certain point, you are going to need a partner to take you to the next level. Your absolute deepest wounds will be triggered—especially if you are deeply in love. I say…

Do you disproportionately freak out when you wear that nice dress?

Do you disproportionately freak out when you wear that nice dress?

Bloody Good Chap got the shock of his life when I called him into the changing rooms of a trendy store in LA to find a blonde chick in a sparkly gold dress. He did a double take, no way his ripped-shorts, converse-addicted girlfriend would ever be found in such a feminine dress. He was…

An actual guide for how to love yourself (even when the phrase pisses you off)

An actual guide for how to love yourself (even when the phrase pisses you off)

Last weekend I had one of the best weekends I’ve had in a long time, and all it took was a giant catastrophe to occur.* * a giant catastrophe in the first world probl Despite the fact that my weekend was tinged by some painful emotions (or perhaps because it was), I flung myself into…

Gidday, I'm Andrea

I'm a mindfulness advisor and former cynical pessimist.

I used to be an awkward, pessimistic, mediocrely happy overachiever.

Life looked good on the outside, but on the inside things were average.

I was indecisive, I didn't know what to do with my life, I self-sabotaged the hell out of my relationships.

I had a feeling I was going to keep f-ing things up for myself unless something radical changed.

The life handbrake-turn that followed over the next few years came as the result of learning what I now teach in Bloody Good Life 101. Just practical, relatable techniques without any rainbow and butterfly jibber jabber.

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